Perspective is Everything
A change in perspective can change everything else.
You are an incredible heir of the King that has been chosen, formed and knitted together as a complete package with value and purpose. You are loved, accepted and powerful. This is the true you. Does this sound true to you?
One of the keys to living from power is to own who we actually are and learn to love what God loves: YOU. From personal experience and coaching many people, I have realized the main hindrance to believing that we have value and purpose is focusing on what isn’t right about ourselves, what is possibly broken or even the aspects of us that are rejected by others. We approach daily life from a place where we wake each day focusing on the parts of our lives that we perceive are wrong. This will ultimately lead us to feeling weak and powerless, with no energy to give to what really matters. We then make decisions from that place and wonder why things do not turn out right.
It is like when you stub your toe and feel the pain of the wound every time you walk on it. Somehow the pain your toe is experiencing becomes your entire focus and you hobble around trying not to bang it again. In reality, your toe is only a small piece of your body and the other 95% of you is healthy and doing very well. The pain of our circumstances is like the stubbed toe. The small part that isn’t going well consumes us and becomes our entire focus. For example, it may be that a part of your marriage needs attention, a situation at work feels overwhelming, or a close relationship has broken down and is taking its toll on your happiness.
“My perspective changed when I realized I have met challenges in the past and can do it again.”
Imagine a day when you wake up and the first thing you think of is how much you are loved, that you have the power and insight you need to overcome all the challenges the day ahead presents. There is nothing that will happen today that will steal your joy or your peace. You would most probably jump out of bed, full of enthusiasm and vigor ready to live your life to the fullest.
I have a tendency to take on too many things and then get stuck in a place called overwhelmed. Being in an overwhelmed place means I feel confused, powerless and fearful of doing anything. I coached myself recently in this area and began to focus on the many successes I have had in the past. I remembered the feeling of exhilaration and satisfaction I had after an intense season of designing and creating my website. I focused on how I had succeeded in teaching myself the software program, even though I am not tech savvy. This positioned me in a powerful place to be able to swing my perspective to seeing my current To Do list from a different view point. With God’s help, I then saw the workload as an action-packed season, full of opportunities. My perspective changed when I realized I have met challenges in the past so I can do it again. What also helped was realizing the situation was only temporary and I would soon be able to look back on this and once again feel the satisfaction of a job well done.
“Often, a change in perspective is all it takes to change a person’s life.”
As a life coach, I have the privilege of seeing the results when clients develop the skill of switching from a perspective of weakness to a perspective of power. I once had a client who was a very capable, talented woman with a storehouse of insight to train and equip others. She was looking for a way to launch her ministry on a greater level. However, she was struggling with her husband’s insistence that she keep the house spic-and-span with good meals on the table. Her perspective was that he was holding her back. I asked her to take a step back from her situation to widen her view and we uncovered that her husband had given her permission not to work. It then dawned on her that he was actually creating the space for her to launch her ministry and not at all creating a roadblock that she perceived was holding her back. By giving her permission not to work she had the time and space to pursue her dream.
Often, a change in perspective is all it takes to change a person’s life. Here are some key principles that will help you make this shift:
Firstly, recognize only part of you is in pain, unperfected or in need of change. There is always a huge part inside of you that is whole and powerful. Developing your emotional and spiritual resilience means getting in touch with the part of you that is whole, energized and optimistic. It means valuing and reminding yourself of the strengths, gifts and abilities that God has given you to use and enjoy.
“Finding a place of peace in the midst of imperfection is necessary to loving yourself and not coming under condemnation.”
Secondly, live your strengths and let God cover your weaknesses. His Word says, “...My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness...” (2 Corinthians 12:9 NLT) I believe this word doesn’t mean that we pursue weakness so He can be strong, but that we understand how God created our relationship with Him to function in this way: While He works with us to cover our weakness, we are responsible for maximizing the talents He has given us (Matt 25:14-30) so that as a total package we are strong. Society tries to convince us we need to “sure up our weak areas” which is good, but it can also distract us from living out our full potential. When we use precious energy on becoming a better, more rounded person, there is little energy left to focus on maximizing what we are divinely designed to do.
Next, there is our relationship with perfection. Perfection is a myth, yet so often we are very uncomfortable about having an aspect of our lives or relationships that is not perfect. Finding a place of peace in the midst of imperfection is necessary to loving yourself and not coming under condemnation.
“Viewing life from a place of wholeness and power will enable you to maximize your potential and rise above challenging circumstances.”
Lastly, allow the part of you that is whole to connect with the Holy Spirit and begin to draw upon Him for inspiration and solutions. Your powerful YOU plus His power is a dynamite combination! Let Him cover that weakness with His grace as you focus your energy on viewing your current “problem” from a place of wholeness. Your problem will begin to feel a whole lot different from a new perspective.
I invite you to grab a cup of tea and let me coach you.
1) Think of a time when you felt successful, energized and doing what you were designed to do.
2) Remind yourself what talents and abilities you were using at that moment. Acknowledge that these are some of your strengths and that you are powerful.
3) Now turn your gaze back to your current problem and see it from a fresh perspective.
4) Invite God to download His thoughts. You may also receive an inspired solution.
5) Notice how different you feel inside.
Viewing life from a place of wholeness and power will enable you to maximize your potential and rise above challenging circumstances. God will make sure the things that need work will get sorted along the way.
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