Finding Your Tribe


Who do you want to be influenced by?

A friend of mine (Jo Smith) put me onto this guy called Seth Godin. He blogs daily about marketing, advertising and business. Here’s something he wrote recently:

by Seth Godin

Who you hang out with determines what you dream about
and what you collide with.

And the collisions and the dreams lead to your changes.

And the changes are what you become.

Change the outcome by changing your circle.

He’s tapping into the idea here that who you hang out with determines what kind of person you become. And there’s that famous quote that says something like ‘You’re the average of the seven people you spend most time with.’

(Sidenote: as I spend most of my time with a 4 year old, a 6 year old and two cats, what does this say about me? Miaow.)

Revival is caught rather than taught

As we celebrate the one year anniversary of Revival Magazine (I saw that Mexican Wave – very nice, thank you.) it’s a good time to stop and think – hey what’s the point of all these articles about revival life?

Like a good Sunday School teacher, I’ve given my answer away already. For me Revival Magazine is a meeting place for like-minded people to hang out together and rub off on each other because revival is caught rather than taught.

All of the people all of the time

Another thing Seth Godin talks about is not trying to appeal to all of the people all of the time. The current trends in advertising are to try and ‘go viral’. That means to try and create a video that 18 million people will watch on YouTube in one week. That’s some powerful attention-grabbing you’ve got yourself right there.

But like we used to say about newspapers: today’s headlines are tomorrow’s fish and chips wrapper. (Because in England they used to wrap hot fish and chips in newspaper for you to take home. I know, how we ever used to be an Empire is quite the mystery.)

Building a tribe

In the same way, yesterday’s viral must-see YouTube video is forgotten instantly by almost all of the 18 million who saw it. Exposure isn’t enough. You want to find the right people for the right message. The important thing is to get the minority together who are interested enough and trust you enough to keep coming back to hear more. Seth calls it ‘building your tribe’ and I think it applies here to Revival Magazine.

Ben, Jon, Alice, Marcott and all the other clever people who put this Revival Magazine together are building a tribe. A tribe of people who love what God has poured out via John & Carol Arnott and the Toronto church and want to hang out with like-minded people.

Travelling to a Catch The Fire Conference in your home nation or in Toronto is a wonderful experience. To soak in the presence of Jesus, to worship together with people who believe and know Daddy God to be good, to flow with the Holy Spirit, to see signs and wonders, to be encouraged by prophecy and to hear the word from anointed preachers and teachers. It expands our vision, refreshes our spirits and it does us good to be with our tribe. Our people.

Post-conference blues

But what about when we’re back home? What about when (in my case) you spend four wonderful years in a non-stop revival atmosphere at the School of Ministry  and then end up back in your home town doing life as normal? What do you do when your tribe is spread out around the world and your local people are still struggling to even believe God wants to heal never mind flow in miracles and take them out to the street?

Well, you find your tribe where you can. Thanks to technology the world is a smaller place and you can connect with your tribe on Skype, on Facebook, on blogs and on sites like this one. You may not be able to hang out with John Arnott in your home town all the time, but you can hang out with him on YouTube with the Catch the Fire TV programs all there for free.

Prophetic insight into your life in your front room

You can get access to stellar people like former Director of the School of Ministry Lynley Allan for Life Coaching. And PIH pastor and artist extraordinaire Jo Smith for Creative Coaching via Skype. It’s amazing, you can just book a session and hang out with two of the most inspirational, talented and prophetic women I’ve ever met, in your front room. Remember:

Who you hang out with determines what you dream about and what you collide with.

If you want to change your circle, get some amazing input into your life, then just open up your computer and click.

Have email, will connect

A lot of my best friends live overseas. Some of us have created this habit where we try to email every Monday with an update and any pictures or prophetic insight God has given us for each other. As each of us has the craziest of lifestyles we miss our Monday deadlines more often than we meet them, but when an update from one of us pings into our inbox everything stops while we read it and re-connect. It’s life-giving. When I need prayer back-up they’re the first people I turn to.

Happy to have a big But

I long so much to be with the tribe in person. But as those with small children or busy jobs know, the effort of getting away to a conference even for one day is sometimes overwhelming. Sometimes there simply isn’t anyone who can pick up the reins of your life for you while you slip out the door back to Revival.

When I see some amazing ministry event mentioned on Facebook that friends are going to, I go to Father and groan to him “I waaaaaant to be thereeeeeeee at the conference with my friends.” And then I’m happy to say I discover I have a big BUT. I can carry on and say:

“But more importantly than being in a wonderful revival meeting, I just want to be where you want me to be. I’d love to be in inspirational worship again, I’d love to meet with and be inspired by the tribe. It would fill my heart. But. But you are enough. You are the one I want to please. And if this is where you have me then so be it. I just want my life to make you smile.”

Time out from the tribe

It ain’t always fun but sometimes Father deliberately keeps us separate from the tribe. Sometimes he pulls us aside for a season. Why? Because he’s jealous for our whole attention.

“I will lead her into solitude,
And there I will speak to her heart.” (Hosea 2:14 Douay-Rheims Bible)

He wants us for himself and the tribe can get so wonderfully distracting:

“Hearken o daughter and incline your ear; forget also your own people, and your father’s house; so shall the king greatly desire your beauty.” (Psalm 45:10 Douay-Rheims Bible)

So find your tribe where you may, whether that’s on these pages of Revival Magazine or on Skype or at a conference. But remember too that our best tribe lives within us. The tribe of three is jealous for our attention inside and outside of the joy of communal worship and revival living. Now those are three people I want to be shaped by as I hang out with them.

And as a wise man said in Ecclesiastes; “Put your confidence in God; remain quiet where He has placed you” (Douay-Rheims Bible)

And on that note. I’ll shut up.

Who’s in your tribe and where do you meet them?

What do you get out of Revival Magazine?